Have you ever noticed how two
three a hundred people can read the same thing, hear the same thing, and have a different response based on several factors. These factors include our cultural filters (I typed flitters first – should I have kept it??), our upbringing filters, our worldview filters, our family filters, our experience filters, our belief filters, and millions many more.
One reason I love writing about communication involves the miscommunications that happen every single day whenever two people try to communicate. It gives me more fodder for my blog and teaches me more about communication. As a people watcher, I love, love, love watching and listening to others (or reading posts and comments).
The other day, I took my oldest Granddaughter to Chick Filet. While she was playing, I was listening to two friends behind me having a conversation. One was obviously more of a talker and an interrupter. The less-talking friend was trying to tell something to the other. Every
couple minutes few seconds, the more-talker would interrupt her in mid-sentence to insert her own thoughts, questions, and analogies. I presume she was going for clarification, but what she was doing was being rude!
As time when on, I could feel the frustration emanating from the less-talker as she would say, “Well, anyway” and go back to the story. She was not going to get side-tracked, no matter how often she was interrupted, also rude in some contexts. Eventually, the story was told, but I’m guessing less-talker did not feel good about it, and more-talker probably missed the entire point of the exercise. Since my back was to them, I could grin with delight as I listened without offending them. Poor less-talker needs to give her friend a lesson on boundaries.
I am not immune either. My daughter and I speak a different language. I speak American English, but I have no idea what language she speaks. I just know the atmosphere is rife with potential miscommunication every time we speak. I usually believe I was clear about my speech, but somehow, it gets all screwed up because she doesn’t speak the language. How do you overcome this? I don’t know, but it’s a lot of fun to watch in other people. Not so fun to find oneself in the middle, however. If these things did not happen in our fallen world, what would we watch on Television or laugh at??
Thank the Lord His communication is clear. I want a show of
keyboards hands – Who understands God’s Words completely? Hmmmmmm. Well, in this case, we know the problem is not His. The problem is that we use our flitters filters when we talk to or listen to Him. It helps to ask Him to make His word clear to us before we read the Bible or pray or listen to a sermon or read an article or …. This is especially true with the Old Testament.
I used to believe God was always serious until I ‘heard’ Him laugh one day at a little ‘joke’ He was playing on us. (See theTurkeyStory).
Many young ladies (and old ones) have difficulty relating to God as Father because their own fathers were less than perfect.
Some have difficulty with the “obey Me” thing, projecting their feminism and/or independence onto God’s thoughts (men are not immune).
♦What are some ways you
flitter filter what you hear from God? From others?
♦Do you enjoy the melodramas all around you as people seek to communicate without really having a clue how to speak to someone in their own language?
♦Do you have any advice about how to remove your filters from your listening/communicating?
♦Do you have a funny story to tell? I’d love to hear it!
♦Response is always in your court. If you’re busy, just move on, but if you have something to say, here’s your chance.