Friendship bracelet

Friendship bracelet (Photo credit: petr cervinka)

Yesterday I read a blog by Lisa TerKeurst, When Friendship is Tough.  In it, she discusses her middle school daughter having a friend problem.  Later the daughter said this profound statement:  “Mom,” she said with great authority, ‘”I’ve decided something about friends.  They all have good stuff and bad stuff.  Things you like and things that really annoy you.  So, you just have to decide if you can handle their package deal.”‘


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Lisa goes on to point out, later in the post, that we too have good and bad in the package we offer others, so we must remember it goes both ways.  “We’re both messy people, willing to work on our not so fun stuff and are fully aware we’re going to hit some muddy potholes along our friendship path.” (about a particular friend).

How about you?  Are you willing to accept others as a package deal, the good, the bad, and the ugly?  Or do you minimize your own annoying habits and maximize those of others?  Do you expect others to be perfect while allowing yourself to be imperfect?  Have you let go a friendship that just needed a little work after hitting a pothole? 

The Relationship Package

What about other relationships in your life?  The one’s with your siblings,  your parents, your children, or others in your life?  Have you accepted them as a package deal?

 The Marriage Package

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Español: Intercambio de anillos entre los novios (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard someone (usually female) talk about their love interest, before he/she becomes their mate, as if they can change the things they don’t like about him.  “He’ll change after we get married.”  NOT!  Not only will those irritants still be there, they will be there even more because the ‘winning’ part is over.  The time to decide if you can live with the whole package and accept him/her as is, is before marriage.  After all, he/she must accept you the same way.

Do you accept your mate as the package deal he/she is?  Have you expected acceptance from mate while not offering it in return?  Have you expected mate to change to make you happy?



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The God Package

God is a package deal.    So many today want to have a god, but they don’t want God on God’s terms.  They want to decide what God is and isn’t.  I first heard this in a 12 step group in which they told people to view their ‘higher power’ in whatever way made sense/was comfortable for them.  I disagree. God is unchangeable.  He is what He is.

He takes us as a whole package, and He wants us to accept Him as a whole package too.  He doesn’t want us to pick and choose what we want to believe based on society’s views or what makes us feel good.  It doesn’t work that way.

God is love – absolutely!  But God is also just and holy.

God’s justice demands payment for our sin. 

God’s love sent Jesus to pay that price for us.

But God commendeth His love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.  Romans 5:8

Do you accept God as He is?  The parts you like along with the ones you do not understand?  Or do you create a God that pleases you (idolotry)? 

What do you think?

Jesus died on the cross to pay for our sin.  God’s love.  God’s justice