For this post, I will borrow from facebook.  You know how the ‘sayings’ float around, often coming back time and again, especially if good.  These sayings, that I wish I could attibute to someone, are about our words.  Words are very important, and they can make deeper wounds than physical harm can.


1.  Don’t mix bad words with your bad mood.  You’ll have many opportunities to change a mood, but you’ll never get the opportunity to replace the words you spoke.  Mhar

How often do we allow a bad mood, excessive tiredness, and other life happenings to give us an excuse for letting loose with our tongue?  These are the times when our tongues are most likely laced with poison as they strike out at any convenient target.  Does it make us feel better?  Maybe momentarily, but then the guilt kicks in.


2.  Before you speak . . .     T  H  I  N  K

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This is a tongue (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

T — is it true?

H — is it helpful?

I — is it inspiring?

N — is it necessary?

K — is it kind?                                 ~ unknown


Our words need to be run through a filter before exiting our lips.  This is especially true when we are stressed out.  This THINK acronym is a great filter to use.  The thing is that we must run it through each letter.  It may be true, but is it necessary at this moment in time?  It is only as we think through the comment and make sure it needs to be said at this moment that we can tame the deadly tongue.


The Bible has a lot to say about the tongue:



tongue (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

—->”….3Behold, we put bits in the horses’ mouths, that they may obey us; and we turn about their whole body.   4Behold also the ships, which though they be so great, and are driven of fierce winds, yet are they turned about with a very small helm, whithersoever the governor listeth.  5Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!   6And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.  7For every kind of beasts, and of birds, and of serpents, and of things in the sea, is tamed, and hath been tamed of mankind:   8But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poisonJames 3:3-10

—->Death and life are in the power of the tongue,  and those who love it will eat its fruits.”   Proverbs 18:21

—->A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.”  Proverbs 15:1            One of the most difficult times to give a soft answer is in the midst of an angry exchange.


The Bible is prolific about the tongue – it is a dangerous member and difficult to control.  I will leave you with this final verse:

“Set a watch, O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips.”  Psalm 141:4


How about you?  Do you THINK before speaking?  Do you set a guard on your lips, especially when stress comes to call?  Do you have any tips or tricks (or quotes) to share that might help others tame the tongue?


I am certainly guilty many times of speaking words that thrust daggars into the hearts of others.  Once spoken, an apology is great, but it never really takes away those rash words or the scar from the wound.

Father, I surrender my tongue, my words, my attitude into your hands.  I ask that you would set a watch before my mouth and keep the door of my lips, that my words would bring peace and healing to those who hear and not harm.  Remind me to think before unleashing the power of my tongue, and then to remain silent 90% of the time.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen!