What if what I wished for was not what I wanted? — Me
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This post could turn into a liturgy of unanswered prayers to thank God for, followed by a country song to that effect. However, that’s not what I meant when I thought this thought. My focus here is on the words we speak. For example, I used to wish my husband would change an aspect about himself that I didn’t like. Well, he has changed, but that’s not what I meant. I wanted him to keep doing things, but I wanted the attitude to change. I guess I should have been more specific when I prayed about it?
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Just fix it please!
Sometimes we don’t totally think through the things we think we want. We don’t look at the aftermath, the unintended consequences, or God’s wisdom and timing in His plans for our life. We don’t even know what we really want, we just throw out a generic “help, change it” because we’re stressed or worried about something in our life. As we have discovered in the last few years, you can’t just wish for “change”, because it might not be the kind of change you want to have. In a way, this is a very shallow form of thinking where we look for a way out of the pain of today.
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And fix it now!
Have you ever wanted something, even asked God for it, and then set about making it happen yourself? I think we all have. We want it and we want it now. When we go ahead of God things just don’t turn out like we envisioned them. God may have wanted that for us too, but the timing was not right. So we move ahead of God and wind up losing that thing we wanted or realize it’s not what we really wanted at all. Sometimes we miss the best God has for us because we won’t wait. We go ahead and finagle answers for ourself. God says, “Ok, if that’s how you want it…”. He gave us free will and won’t force us to wait. But how many more blessings would we receive, how much less pain, if we would only wait on His timing?
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Communication
When we talk to God, to others, or even our selves, it’s important to think through what we say. We’ve discussed many ways communication can go wrong in this blog, and this is another. Someone I know (who does this a lot) brought a project over to the house and said, “This is what I’d like to do.” What she meant is “This is what I’d like YOU to do.” I make it a policy not to jump in when people don’t specify what they really want (most of the time) because I’ve learned that it enables that other person to make assumptions he or she should not make. {If you want something from me, come out and ask me.} Sometimes speaking in generalities works fine, but when we really think we want something, it pays to get specific with yourself, with others, and with God. This is not for God’s sake; He already knows what we really want. Awareness of what we really ask for and what that means helps us not to get what we wished (prayed) for when that’s not what we really wanted at all.
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When a yearning rises up inside
And pulls your heart toward
Just put it in the Master’s hands
And be in one accord.
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Those things we want and think we need
Must haves and ‘rescue me’s
Come from a desperately sinful heart
We must seek Him on our knees
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And surrender every want and need
to His amazing, well-mapped plan
For He’s the one who knows us best
And has since before time began
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We speak our thoughts and wait
For His blessings in His time
Hands clasped in supplication
as He works His plan sublime
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For we know not the future
nor what will cause us pain
So we trust Him to know us better
Our trust won’t be in vain
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Angela Masters Young c 2012
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under the skies of arkansas
Oct 13, 2012 @ 10:18:20
well the bible says that god is love so i think perhaps that if someone prays for something thats not out of love then it won’t be out of god
ansuyo
Oct 13, 2012 @ 22:46:47
Yes, that’s one reason God may say no to someone. Sometimes He knows that something better is coming or that that thing will hurt the person or someone else if He grants it. He sees the big picture, and we have the hard part – trusting Him 🙂 Thanks for coming by. Angie